Men, naturally are such tender beings, and yet some of them walk around with the strongest of bodies, their muscles pumped up as if they have built their bodies up as another form of protection, or armour. For some men this is not the case, and it is because they are taking care of their bodies and they enjoy exercising and working out. For others the strength in their bodies is just a side effect from the job that they perform each day, through manual handling but regardless of how strong they are, and how their body is built, underneath it all, men are very tender and sensitive.
The perception is that men need a good strong massage, where knuckles and elbows are needed to get in there and make a difference, but from my experience, men don’t need this at all.
I have found that as a massage therapist it is often the women that ask for more pressure when massaging and it is the men that are more sensitive to touch and are able to get the most out of their massage without the ‘no pain, no gain’ mentality. This is beneficial because the muscles are actually able to let go and you get more out of a massage when there is no digging, pummelling and pushing. When the body feels safe, the muscles can release and completely let go. When the body feels like it has to take a deep breath and brace for the next massage stroke, something is not right. Also when there is that much digging and pressure being applied, the body has to go into an anti inflammatory response and that isn’t actually supporting the body at all.
The Fact is, there is absolutely no gain, if there is pain and there is no such thing as ‘good’ pain
If it hurts, it is harming and putting unnecessary tension in the body. If on the other hand, the massage is firm, and supports the body to let go, then you are able to surrender and let go even more.
It is lovely to see that men are taking care of their bodies more today than ever before by including regular massage as part of their health and wellbeing. With the stressful lives that many men are living these days, taking time out for you, taking time to care for your body is so important because we are not much use to anyone else if we are not taken care of first and foremost. We often take great care to look after our cars, but our body is the vehicle for our soul and deserves the best care that we can offer it.